Neglect Double Standard Calculator

Discover how many symptoms you tolerate in yourself compared to what you'd allow in others

Your Progress Step 1 of 4

Understanding Self-Neglect

Your body sends clear signals when boundaries are being crossed—physical tension, racing thoughts, and emotional distress. The question is: do you respond to these signals in yourself the way you would if you saw them in someone you care about?

💡 The Key Insight from MBT

Most people have well-developed boundaries for how much suffering they'd allow a friend or colleague to endure before intervening. Yet internally, they tolerate far more symptoms before giving themselves permission to stop. This gap is a measure of self-neglect—and it directly contributes to prolonged stress and burnout.

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This tool will guide you through 4 steps: identifying your symptoms, measuring your thresholds, exploring your fears, and understanding your results.

Step 1: Your Current Symptoms

Think about an average stressful day. Tick the symptoms you typically experience:

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Physical Signals
Signs your body is in "Fight, Flight, or Freeze" mode
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Mental Signals
Signs your mind is running too fast or shutting down
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symptoms selected

Step 2: Your Tolerance Thresholds

Imagine a colleague or friend showing signs of stress. At what point would you intervene?
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1 symptom 20 symptoms
Be honest about your actual behaviour, not what you think you "should" do.
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1 symptom 20 symptoms
Your Double Standard Gap
For Others
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For Yourself
8
Self-Neglect Gap
+5 symptoms

Step 3: What Do You Fear About Changing?

Many people maintain a double standard because they fear what might happen if they treated themselves with the same care they give others. Select any fears that resonate with you:

Your Self-Neglect Analysis

Understanding your relationship with your own wellbeing

Your Self-Care Is Never Completely Absent

Your Symptoms Profile

Understanding Your Resistance

The fears you identified reveal important insights about what's maintaining your double standard:

Key Insights

Important Notice

This assessment is based on Mind Behaviour Training (MBT) principles and is for self-reflection purposes only. It is not a diagnostic tool and should not replace professional mental health evaluation. If you are experiencing persistent distress, anxiety, or depression, please consult a qualified healthcare professional.